Does talking to trans people make you anxious?
Many teachers, support staff, parents and carers are unsure about the right language to use regarding trans people.
Do you worry about upsetting or offending trans people by using the wrong words? Or, do you avoid the subject because you feel uncertain? If so, read on…
Gender is your sense of being a man or woman. It’s also some other types of gender that don’t fit the man or woman category.
These tips explain ten key words that are handy for us all to know.
Trans – Ten Tips
Transgender: This umbrella term describes someone who is not the same as (or who is not comfortable with) the sex they were assigned on their birth certificate.
Trans: A short version of the word ‘transgender’. Trans and transgender are often used interchangably.
Transman: I was assigned female at birth but now I identify and live as a man.
Trans woman: I was assigned male at birth but now I identify and live as a woman.
Non-binary: Non-binary people don’t feel male or female. They may:
- Feel like both
- Feel like something inbetween
- Have a gender that changes over time
- Not relate to gender at all
Cisgender: This means anyone who isn’t transgender. It is shortened to Cis and when you say this word is sounds like the word “sis.”
Transitioning: This is the journey of changing from your sex assigned at birth.
Transitioning can include a change of name, change of pronouns used, surgery, hormones and seeking legal recognition of a person’s gender identity.
Deadnaming: When you call a trans person by their previous name (i..e. the name used before transitioning), this is deadnaming.
Deadnaming is hurtful: Use the person’s present name whenever possible.
Pronouns (he or she): Often, a trans person’s chosen name indicates their gender preference. For example, a trans person called Connor would typically be referred to as “he.”
It’s best to respect what the person prefers. This could include terms such as they, their or xe. If you are unsure, politely ask the person what their preferred pronouns are.
Outing: This term means exposing someone’s trans status.
In short, it is bad manners because it is best for the trans person to decide about who is told about their identity (with some exceptions).
Is transgender more common in people assigned male or female at birth?
Historically, those assigned male at birth made up more of the referrals to gender identity clinics.
This is changing because, amongst teenagers, those assigned female at birth are now more likely to identify as trans.
The Tavistock Centre, a gender identity clinic, has reported that the rate was about 70% – 30% (birth-assigned males vs birth-assigned females).
Is autism more common in the transgender community?
Current research from Cambridge University says yes. As well as an actual autism diagnosis, autistic traits are more common in the trans community (i.e. people show some characteristics of autism but do not have a diagnosis).
However, we are not certain why this is.
Where can I get more info?
- Genderbread is a visual way of understanding gender identity, sexual orientation and gender expression, go to genderbread.org.
- Check downloads below to get this info in an editable Word Doc or pdf so that you can share it with colleagues.
- For practical resources to support young people with SEND and LBGTQ+ identities, click here.
- Questions? Then get in touch.